Do you have friends, colleagues, and acquaintances who get in touch only when they need something? If yes, I'm willing to make a bet with you: You're not as close to them as you are to those who contact you just to check in.
My friend Rob Blatt calls this kind of friend a "seagull."Seagulls only sharetheir expertise when it serves their need. They have little regard
for participating in community dialogue. And tend to ignore proper
conventions. Here's a seagull in action.
The
seagull in the video, "Sam" from Aberdeen, Scotland, was caught on
videotape stealing numerous bags of cheese Doritos. The formal term for
Sam's behavior--is "Kleptoparasitism" or the act of stealing food
or other inanimate objects. Much like web surfers who usurp community
discussions by changing the conversation to focus on themselves,
Kleptoparasites "score" by stealing items they couldn't obtain
otherwise--or by minimizing the time and effort required. They aren't
nice.
For three tips on how to avoid being viewed as a seagull, see the extended coverage of this topic on Best Fit Forward.
To your success,
Chandlee